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LOVE AND PRESENCE

Attention As A Love Language

You can feel the difference when someone is half with you.
Eyes flicking to their phone.
“Uh-huh” on repeat.
Body in the room, mind somewhere else.

You walk away feeling a little more invisible.

Being present in love is the opposite of that.
Be present in love. Giving someone your full attention and presence is one of the most loving acts you can perform.

Presence is simple, but not always easy.
It means letting this moment be the main thing for a while.
Not the next task.
Not the last argument.

Just this person, this breath, this exchange.

When you give someone full attention, their nervous system can feel it.
Shoulders drop a little.
Voices soften.
The space between you gets quieter, in a good way.

Even the shape of the moment can change it.
Sitting so you can see each other’s faces.
A circle at the table instead of a line toward a screen.
Phones facedown, even for five minutes.

Presence turns ordinary time into a kind of gentle geometry where both of you fit.
No big speech needed.
Just the message: “Right now, I am really here with you.”

PRACTICE

Choose one person today and give them a small pocket of full presence. Sit or stand so you can see their face. Put your phone out of reach. For the length of that conversation, keep bringing your attention back to them when it wanders. Notice how the “shape” of the moment feels in your body before and after: your breath, your shoulders, your chest. Let yourself register that shift as love.

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