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SHARED GOALS

Pointing Your Lives In The Same Direction

Love can feel strong and still drift when there is no shared direction.
You care about each other, but the days go only toward bills, chores, and whoever is shouting the loudest.

The old pattern is to leave the big questions vague.
Where are we heading
What kind of life are we building
What do we want our energy to be for

Shared goals are not a rigid plan.
They are a compass.
They give your choices a shape.
You are not just sharing a house or a calendar.
You are choosing a future you can walk toward together.

These goals can be small and near or wide and far.
Paying off a debt.
Moving to a different city.
Raising kind humans.
Contributing something to the world around you.

Love, here, is the decision to be partners in direction, not only partners in feeling.

PRACTICE

Set aside a quiet pocket of time and ask each other three questions: What do I want the next year to feel like, what is one thing I want us to move toward together, and what is one thing I want to gently move away from. Listen without correcting. Then choose one shared goal that feels true to both of you, even if it is very small, and name one tiny step you can take this month that moves in that direction. Let that step be your first shared move on purpose.

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