Some relationships stay small because each person is secretly growing alone.
You read your books.
They listen to their podcasts.
You both evolve, but not in the same conversation.
The old pattern is this quiet drift.
You change over here.
They change over there.
Then one day you look at each other and realize you are not standing in the same story anymore.
Mutual growth is different.
It treats the relationship itself like a living thing that can learn.
Not just two separate journeys, but a shared field you are both shaping.
You start asking different questions.
What are we practicing together.
What kind of people are we helping each other become.
Where does being close to me make your life more alive, and where does it quietly shrink you.
When you grow this way, you do not need the same pace or the same path.
You just keep bringing your new insights back to the center of the connection.
You make room for their evolution too, even when it stretches the version of them you first fell for.
Love, here, is choosing to become wiser together instead of outgrowing each other in silence.