Hurt writes fast.
One sharp comment, one broken promise, and your mind can replay it for years.
Pair love with forgiveness. Forgiveness is a profound expression of love that frees both the giver and the receiver from past hurts.
Forgiveness is not saying what happened was fine.
It is not pretending you were not wounded.
It is not inviting someone to hurt you again.
It is choosing not to let that moment be the only story you carry about them, or about yourself.
Some spiritual teachers say there are really only two lenses you can look through: love or fear.
Fear holds on, keeps score, and builds a case.
Love asks, “What would it be like to release this grip, even a little”
In that frame, forgiveness is a shift in perception.
From “You are only the worst thing you did”
to “You are a whole human who failed here, and so am I.”
From “This pain defines me”
to “This pain is part of my story, not the whole thing.”
Sometimes you forgive and stay.
Sometimes you forgive and step away.
In both cases, the point is the same: you stop carrying the weight of constant replay.
Forgiveness becomes an act of love for your own nervous system as much as for the other person.